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Post by karlsie on Jan 17, 2013 20:25:20 GMT -5
"What should be nurtured depends on the results the society wants. It 's clear we want shitty results right now." This is precisely why I believe people need to build their self-esteem. By that, I do not mean inflated egos, an exaggerated sense of self-worth or over-confidence; although I do believe the average person is under-confident.
If you have self-esteem, you don't feel the need to do what society expects of you. You follow the bend of your own expectations. You're going to do the best you can, whether it's shoveling ditches or creating an architectural design. Shoveling ditches is not menial if you take pride in your work and are satisfied with the results.
If we have self-esteem, we don't need to be applauded for work well done. The applause is only a side benefit. Our greatest reward is in knowing we put out our best effort, whether others acknowledge this or not. Shitty results are only the expectancy of those who, lacking their self-esteem, cannot recognize or acknowledge esteem for others. It's the same type of concept as loving yourself so you can learn to love others better.
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Post by asiaticdarkperson on Jan 18, 2013 4:12:52 GMT -5
I don't think I've ever seen you two reply to eachother's posts here... But anyway, I agree that true self-confidence comes from being impeccable in ones own eyes, rather than the approval of others.
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Post by grainnerhuad on Jan 18, 2013 16:41:18 GMT -5
Karla, I believe that the "self-esteem" issue is really what I brought up in the beginning. However, I have decided to wipe that phrase from my lexicon because I am sick to death of it and people misuse it, thinking it means they need to congratulate everyone for every little detail of life. ADP- Karla and I don't always answer each other here because after working together so long we very often intuit what the other means. But it does happen.
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